Finding out a situationship
A situation is generally a random, indefinite relationship. They are formed by chance or convenience, and people don’t usually take them with much foresight. Situations often form between people who live in close proximity, such as neighbors or colleagues. Typically, the relationship forms after several contacts that become habitual, without a discussion of what the parties involved want from a relationship. If you are unsure whether you are in a situation, ask yourself the following questions:
Do you know how to define the relationship? Do you know what you two expect from each other? Do you know how the other person feels about you? If the answer to most or all of these questions is no, you probably find yourself in a situation.
If everyone involved is really happy with the relationship as it is and secretly wishes nothing else, a situationship can be a great experience. However, it’s pretty common for at least one person in the relationship to start wanting something more. When there’s a lack of clear communication in this case — whether it’s from fear of rejection, aversion to conflict, a desire to be seen as “low-maintenance,” or something else entirely — the dynamic can quickly sour into something negative.
To prevent something from going wrong, it is important to handle each and every situation with care. By being strategic and confident, you can keep the relationship healthy and positive for everyone involved.
1. Embody the dynamic
Feel comfortable leaning into the lack of engagement. Don’t assume what the other person wants, and by no means try to change your behavior based on that speculation. Turn your focus inward and figure out how you want to behave on any given day. Finally, a common trait of situationships is that you disagreed with or shared many of the expectations. Therefore, it is important that you do not act on expectations that are not explicitly stated, and that you do not assume that your partner will bring more to your connection unless you ask them to.
Access only when you really want it, don’t hide your true self, don’t share things you’d rather keep private, and make decisions based on what’s best for you.
2. Stay flexible
Because situations generally don’t involve much communication, things can be unpredictable. You might see each other every day for a while and then suddenly three weeks without seeing each other at all. The other person may share something that makes you want to get to know them better — or something that makes you want to end things. Go with the flow and see how you like it. You may learn that the lack of structure helps you succeed, or you may choose to hate it. The insights you gain into yourself and the sense of adaptability you develop will be invaluable.
3. Experiment with freedom
People spend so much time feeling that their personal worth is defined by their romantic and intimate relationships. Being in a situation gives you a unique opportunity to experience some level of intimacy and closeness without being committed to a committed partner or having to frame your life around someone else. Explore a hobby you’ve always wanted to try, or return to a passion project you previously put on hold.
Consider exploring nonmonogamy while not living in the structures of a relationship (but remember it’s important to be honest and open with people about how many partners you see in order to provide approval and security to respect everyone). Even if you are under no obligation to live by the wishes of others, honesty and transparency are always vital to human relationships. Be direct!
4. Embrace the unknown
Maybe you are in a situation because you are not sure what you want from romance. All too often people feel pressured into making decisions before they really understand what they want. One of the blessings of a situationship is that it gives you the time and space you need to figure out what you desire. Go with the flow, enjoy yourself and don’t emphasize what you don’t know. You can learn a lot about yourself when you let your feelings flow.
5. If it doesn’t work, change it
Situations may give some people the freedom they need, but the lack of clarity can stress others. If the lack of commitment isn’t working for you, change your dynamic or reach out to clarify your relationship. This will end your situation as you know it, but you could end up in a committed relationship instead — or the relationship could end altogether. This may seem scary, but it’s worth it. If you’re unhappy, don’t stand still just to avoid rocking the boat.
Make a situation work for you
Situations can be difficult. You can sometimes even find yourself in one without even knowing how you got there. And once you’re there, you might not know how you feel or what you want to do next. If possible, give yourself some time and space before making any decisions and consider implementing some of the suggestions above. In the end, do what feels right for you. There is no wrong way to do this as long as you are honest with both your partner and yourself. If you need further insight or an outside perspective, a conversation with a spiritual guide or love medium may provide the guidance you need.
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